Mixed Signals Decision Tree

Move from interpreting individual messages to checking patterns, asking one clear question, and deciding what level of contact is healthy for you.

This tool cannot tell you what another person thinks. It helps you distinguish missing information from a repeated pattern.

Using Mixed Signals Decision Tree

When to use this

Use this when you have been re-reading messages and cannot tell whether you are seeing a pattern or inventing one. It works best after several interactions rather than one ambiguous reply.

How to read the result

The tree asks about behaviour over time, not about single messages. A slow reply is data about one evening; a consistent gap between what someone says and what they do is data about the situation. Answer on what has actually happened, not on the most generous or most fearful reading.

What this tool cannot do

No decision tree can tell you what another person feels. It can only tell you whether you have enough consistent information to act, and the honest answer is often that you do not, and that asking directly is faster than analysis.

Next step

If the outcome points to asking, ask one plain question rather than several hedged ones, and ask it directly rather than hinting. A clear answer, including one you did not want, ends the uncertainty faster than another week of interpretation.

This tool provides general reflection and does not submit your entries, diagnose a condition, or replace qualified professional advice.