Using Trust Repair Conversation Checklist

When to use this

Use this when a specific lie has been acknowledged and both people freely want a conversation about its impact. Make space for a pause or decision to leave.

How to read the result

Checking an item means it has been discussed or considered, not that trust has returned. Real repair depends on truthful behavior and each person's independent choice over time.

What this tool cannot do

A checklist cannot judge the seriousness of a lie, set a forgiveness deadline, or make surveillance healthy. Seek trusted or qualified help for safety, health, legal, or financial concerns.

Next step

Agree only to actions that are specific and respectful. Revisit the facts and the agreement after enough time to observe behavior, while respecting either person's choice to stop.